As we kick off the busiest travel days of the year, it can be a real stressful time for both travel and family. I get stressed out and I’m around my extended family all year round! But they’re family, what can you do? My sister is having me pick her up in the pit of hell LAX on Wednesday night. I cannot imagine a worse case scenario…and if we didn’t share DNA I would straight up charge a hella exorbitant fee. Friendship and family lines get drawn at LAX.
I digress…I did my traveling in the past two weeks together to pre-Friendsgiving it up, so to speak, and on these long plane rides, I was ruminating about life and conversations I had with my pals (as I tend to do), so here are some thoughts from my motivational speaking corner.
Life is too short to be unhappy. It is unpredictable, especially in the world we live in –nothing is guaranteed, so pursue what brings you joy. And if you already have it (many of us do), don’t push it away, make time for it. We all deserve that chance for ourselves, and how do we get it? First by trusting ourselves. We all need basic things like food, water, clothing, shelter, but what I think a lot of us really need is belief and confidence in ourselves. I always say 75% confidence, 20% luck and 5% skill. If you don’t believe in yourself, you don’t have much of anything because that inner confidence is typically the driver of determination, hope, and state of mind. In order to best serve others, you have to first best serve yourself — it is the oxygen mask dictum.
Work isn’t everything. Repeat that. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great– you need work to get money and provide for yourself and your family. But, your job that you’ve put so much of yourself into, the thing you’ve sacrificed so much for — it’s not the only thing you have going for you. Don’t take the extra shift, spend it with your people, they need you more.
Note the words: basic needs. Learning to be apathetic about materialism helps. You need things, but do you need things? Marie Kondo your life.
Knowing your worth is huge. You have much more to offer than you think, and if you are unsure, ask someone you trust and they’ll lay it out for you (you can ask me, I am typically that person in the friendship). And if they don’t listen or they aren’t there, or if only they say stuff that you want to hear, then they’re probably not your friend. It’s better to have truth men than yes men, and yes, the truth hurts. No pain, no gain.
At the same time, surrounding yourselves with people who are only like minded is a recipe for insulation. Not always a good thing. Read more, do things that may make you a little uncomfortable, always keep your eyes open and learn. That’s why traveling is so important — it makes things a little less abstract, a little more relatable and in reach. It makes you a more well-rounded and patient individual.
Be strong, be calm and walk away if needed. This year, I left my comfortable job to go out on my own. It was the best decision I have ever made (granted, it wasn’t a difficult decision). There was definitely something better at the end of the tunnel, and for every trial and tribulation in life that comes your way, just know that you’ll come out on the other side. I am thankful to the people I have around me that have supported me and spurred me to find the best situation for myself. Happy Thanksgiving and because I yammered more platitudes than you’d see at Home Goods, here’s a pic of Jerry’s World from the sky. They’re hosting the Redskins/Cowboys match up on Turkey Day, so post up and be with your loved ones!